Body shaming is a problem for both genders. I believe that most body shamers are people with a lot of insecurities and in a bid to feel better about themselves, they aim at other people. Now, even though body shaming is common in both genders, it is especially harmful to women.
“Body shaming is humiliating, with often painful, long-term consequences. It mocks and stigmatizes its victims, tearing down self-respect and perpetuating the harmful idea that our unique physical appearances should be compared to air-brushed notions of ‘perfect.’ What really matters is our character and humanity.” Los Angeles City Attorney Mike Feuer in the Los Angeles Times said.
All bodies, not matter the size or shape are beautiful, and from what I have noticed on social media, body shaming has not made anyone healthier or happier, it has instead caused us to find something wrong with ourselves and then try to fix what people have told us is broken. I will prefer if we spend all this time energy on realizing our dreams, breaking down walls, scaling through fences, and praying in the Holy Spirit!
Body or fat shaming is one of the most common forms of cyberbullying. Even as I write this article, thinness is viewed by the society as the standard of beauty, so people who deviate from that body type are often ridiculed and made to feel inferior.
Body shaming is defined as inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another person’s weight or size. It can also reach into the discrimination against individuals who may be overweight.
It’s really sad that some believe that making overweight people feel ashamed of their weight or eating habits actually helps motivate them to lose weight. It does not!
Psychologists have done a lot of research on this, and body shaming does NOT motivate people, but makes them feel terrible about themselves and actually causes them to eat more and gain more weight.
Body-shaming might not look the way you would imagine. It’s not always as obvious as calling someone too fat or too skinny — sometimes it’s the suggestion that a certain cut of clothing isn’t “flattering” on people built like you. Regardless of the form it takes, one thing that’s for certain is that there is still far, far too much of it. Read 10 Painfully Common Ways Society Tries To Body Shame Women
Women have reached the point that we feel like we aren’t making progress unless we’re actively trying to lose weight. We lose our sense of purpose if we aren’t trying to change ourselves physically. We judge our worth by how we look. But self-love is about not wasting time on negative thoughts. Self-love is about knowing that you are good enough exactly as you are. Shannon Kaiser, 2016
If you don’t like yourself, losing more weight wouldn’t fix it-I’m sorry. The solution is internal and not external. You have to learn to accept their own body.
Therese some steps you can take to like yourself more:
- Do what and be with who honors and respects you (especially your body)
- Minimize self-sabotage.
- Lower your expectations: It’s easy to hate yourself when you keep falling short of your expectations.
- Read your self-esteem file: My self-esteem file is a manila folder holding the truth about what people feel about people. This comes from friends, readers, teachers, and an occasional family member. It’s a list of your key strengths.
- Ditch regret
- Be Held in Prayer
- Begin your day with love (not your phone): Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed.
- Use affirmations to train your mind to become more positive.
- Try something new.
- Work on personal and spiritual development.
- Be patient with yourself.
Want to stop body shamming? Here are a few ideas how you can stop body-shaming:
- Encourage and motivate people
- Report hurtful comments
- Flag inappropriate content
- Spread body positivity
Please feel free to submit articles on how you overcame your low self-esteem and if you haven’t overcome it, I am here to help.
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