#MySelfEsteemandI 6 steps to building your self worth and self esteem by Coach Josh

According to Overcoming, self-esteem is an aspect of the way we view ourselves. It’s different from self-image, which might describe a whole range of characteristics (such as ‘I’m Nigerian’ or ‘I’m female’) but without implying whether they are good or bad. Self-esteem refers to the overall opinion we have of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves as people.

Low self-esteem means that the tone of this opinion is negative: for example, ‘I’m unlovable’ or ‘I’m useless’. Of course, most of us have mixed opinions of ourselves, but if your overall opinion is that you are an inadequate or inferior person if you feel that you have no true worth and are not entitled to the good things in life, this means your self-esteem is low. And low self-esteem can have a painful and damaging effect on your life.

Low self-esteem is also a negative emotional evaluation of your own worth. It is a negative judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Low self-esteem can result from a lot of factors, including genetic factors, physical appearance or weight, mental health issues, socioeconomic status, peer pressure or bullying

Please watch this short video on how to build your self-esteem and self-worth in 6 steps

Coach Josh is a certified Life Coach that lives to help people UNPLUG from the negative influences of Society and PLUG into Christ. His heart is for people to discover their purpose and live their life connected to the eternal source that will never fail them. He is the founder of a local ministry called UNPLUGGED whose mission is to reach to coach and to send out.

In 2008 and 2009, Coach Josh began honing into the mission of UNPLUGGED by self­publishing his first book, UNPLUGGED. It was during this time that Coach Josh also launched UNPLUGGED’s YouTube channel with over 300 life coaching videos ranging in topics from Overcoming Substance Abuse, to How to Deal with Insecurities, to relationships. These videos enabled UNPLUGGED to reach an international audience diverse in age, gender, racial/ethnic background and socio­economic status. On October 30, 2010, Coach Josh launched UNPLUGGED locally in the city of Charlotte. Set in an atmosphere of Social Mixers, UNPLUGGED hosts encouraging discussions along with interactive Q and A sessions to provide answers for participants interested in topics ranging from relationships to practical teachings from the Bible.

Since 2010, UNPLUGGED has hosted over 200 events, produced over 400 YouTube videos watched in over 75 countries, answered over 250 questions, and hosted two benefit concerts in the heart of Charlotte. Coach Josh has also released two books entitled UNPLUGGED and World War M3 (Me).

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Sex isn’t your secret weapon | My Self Esteem and I

I used sex instead of words to say sorry.

My boyfriend and I had an argument a while ago, and honestly, the first thing that came to my mind was how to use my body to get him to realise how sorry I was. I was really shocked and brooded this over a while, I didn’t understand why that would be the only thing that came to my mind. I didn’t think of saying sorry, I didn’t think saying it will be enough, I sincerely thought what I did was unforgivable and the only way to get back on his good side was to use the one arsenal that has worked for me over the years.

My body

My body has been abused by me and by the people I allowed to abuse it, my body has been my help when it comes to apologies, I didn’t have to say anything, my body did most of the begging and after sex, it seemed that everything was alright.

But, it was never alright.

With sex, you can be as sorry and as angry as you want to be. You can pacify and sometimes patch a broken relationship. But this relationship and this method will only work for a while.

I noticed the signs, I knew I wasn’t meant to be in these relationships, I knew I deserved better, people told me all the time, but I just couldn’t leave. Leaving wasn’t an option or me as I just couldn’t imagine that someone else will make me as happy as this person did even though I was extremely sad and shedding tears every two weeks. I just couldn’t leave; I didn’t think I would be able to do it, I didn’t think I would be enough for another person. So many questions came to my mind; where will I start from? who will love me? who can love me?

As far as I was concerned, my value was in my being “enough” for my ex’s. So I tried to be enough, I tried to be enough sexually and in all the other ways I felt they needed me.

I thought I was something, I didn’t realise that I was nothing.

Just empty

Until I met Jesus

Accepting God’s love was one of the most difficult things I have ever done, it still is difficult-I mean, low self-esteem constantly makes you aware that you ‘cannot afford to be wrong’. But, with God, even when I am wrong, His arms are always open to receive me.

His love is there irrespective of my performance, His love is there to pick me up whenever I fall, His love is there to love me into doing the right things. It is not based on my performance, it is not based on what I am good at, He just loves me.

You do not have to use your body anymore.

You are worth more than this

You are worth more than him

More than her

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