#MySelfEsteemandI Every Believer’s Guide to a Healthy Self Esteem

A Christian is not allowed to view himself in any other way but what Jesus says he is. The bible is your mirror; the bible reflects who you are in Christ, who you are in the world, who you are as a new creation.

Battling low self-esteem and sometimes depression can be a lifelong struggle if you do not learn to see yourself the way God sees you. I am beginning to feel low self-esteem is quite selfish, it makes you focus on you, what you feel about yourself, how you feel about yourself, how you look at yourself. It’s really all about you and your feelings not considering what those who love you feel about you and especially what God feels about you, and who He created you to be. Low self-esteem hinders you, it’s almost like a big rock tied to your leg, you can only move so far until you get tired and have to sit down.

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18.21

You can choose to live by the words of your mouth or you can choose to die a slow painful death by the words of your mouth. You choose death whenever you tell yourself that you have low self-esteem, depression or whatever form of mental illness you are battling with. You speak death whenever you talk down to your body, telling yourself how amazing you would look if you look in a particular way instead of the way you look now. There is something about speaking, it calls things into existence, the more you talk about your flaws, the more they are real to you, the more real they are to you, the more you go deeper and deeper into self-hate.

When you believe and eventually say that you have or still have low self-esteem (after being born again) you will still have it, you will continually battle with this feeling of inferiority. I need you to ensure that your heart is continually focused on what and who Jesus says you are. “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” Proverbs 4:23

When you look at your body and speak life to your flaws, something comes alive in you. I look at my body and there are some things I wish I could change, but I have learnt to shut that voice aside and laugh over my insecurities all the while praising God for making me perfect. Yes, I am perfect , from the crown of my head to the sole of my feet, I am an amazon and no devil or a voice in my head can tell me otherwise, you see, my eyes and my heart are set only on who Jesus says I am and He sees me as perfect, created in His own image. Hello!

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. 3 John 2

Often time’s people equate this verse with wealth-I did that as well but I realised that was limiting this verse and limiting Apostle John’s prayer.  According to Biblestudytools.com, the soul is the “life,” “self,” “person,” “desire,” “appetite,” “emotion” and “passion”. When your soul is not prospering, it affects your spirit as well as limiting what the Spirit of God can do through you. The only way your spirit, soul and body can prosper is by feeding it on the Word of God, it can be hard to read the bible, believe me, I struggled with that at some point. But, just as you would discipline yourself for a race so you will come first, reading, praying and meditating are the three important things you need to ensure that you are fit to stand against any voice that tells you that you are not good enough.

“And they have overcome (conquered) him by means of the blood of the Lamb and by the utterance of their testimony, for they did not love and cling to life even when faced with death [holding their lives cheap till they had to die for their witnessing].” Revelations 12.11

Believe it or not, the issue of depression and low self-esteem was nailed on the cross along with Jesus. The issue of being unworthy, being unclean, whatever issue you have was dealt with on the cross. When He was being nailed to the cross; He took upon Himself every form of death that you and I would have experienced in this world so we will not have to experience it again. It is illegal for you to suffer from low self-esteem, illegal for you to be depressed; Jesus took all that upon His body and gave you His very LIFE! Glory to God

“There was nothing beautiful or majestic about his appearance, nothing to attract us to him. He was despised and rejected— a man of sorrows, acquainted with the deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care. Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows[a] that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.” Isaiah 53

This is my testimony. I am healed! You are healed! Jesus lives! Jesus saves!

Let the words of your mouth has to align with what Jesus did.

Finally brethren, it is important that Jesus has the final say in how you see yourself because when you allow other voices tell you who you are. You will never be all God wants you to be. “We always pray that God will show you everything he wants you to do and that you have all the wisdom and understanding the Spirit gives. Then you will live a life that honours God and you will always please Him by doing good deeds. You will come to know God better. His glorious power will make you patient and strong enough to endure anything, and you will be truly happy.” Colossians 1.9-11

A smaller nose won’t make you happy

Being a few inches taller won’t make you happy

Bleaching your skin won’t make you happy

Getting a boyfriend will not make you happy

Bigger hips won’t make you happy

Bigger boobs won’t make you happy

A bigger butt won’t make you happy

JESUS MAKES YOU TRULY HAPPY, He teaches you to be happy with all your ‘seemingly’ obvious flaws, all your faults and all your disadvantages.

Please feel free to submit articles on how you overcame your low self-esteem and if you haven’t overcome it, I am here to help.

Email me thelagosbeautyblogger@gmail.com

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