#MySelfEsteemandI Sex doesn’t Prove Love


People with low self-esteem get taken advantage especially when it comes to things of the sexual nature. We are the used and battered ones, we are the broken ones, and we are the ones whose light seems to go darker and darker with every relationship.

With low self-esteem, you do not feel loveable. Love is always a battlefield because you constantly have to question his feelings for you and you constantly feel you have to prove how much you deserve his love. This can lead to obsession; it becomes more of what you can do to please him instead of how you both can grow in understanding and love.

People with low self-esteem tend to have problems with sex and may be more likely to engage in higher-risk sexual behaviours. Sometimes I think the guys know you have a problem and they use it to their advantage, they know you will do anything for them, they know you will never let them go because you are too scared that you might not find any other person, so they let you do things that you may not be comfortable with. They use your soul and spirit to fulfilling their sexual desires, they make you feel like dirt after they are done, but what can you do? You are conditioned to think that you may never find another guy to love you like he does.

That is a big lie by the way.

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There is no one on the face of this earth that isn’t loveable. Not anybody, it may take a while to find that person but understand that sex isn’t a proof of love. Sex is a tool and it has been exploited.

I have written something’s below, hopefully, it will help you understand and be stronger.

  • You never realise how much affection, patience and respect you deserve until you finally walk away from the selfish, loyal user you are with.
  • It is not your responsibility to make him happy. Everyone is responsible for his or her own happiness. Happiness to me is being content in who you are not in whose you are.
  • Having sex with someone doesn’t prove love. If he guilt trips you into having sex with him, know that he is a liar and a user. Sex doesn’t make any guy love you more, it just makes him lust for you more. It’s time to let him go.
  • If he is constantly pushing you for sex every time you are with him, and whining like a child when you say no. He is a user and dangerous to your self-esteem.

I have a few questions for you, please answer sincerely,

When you look into your partner’s eyes, what do you see?

Do you feel that you deserve those feelings?

If you do not feel you deserve those feelings, honey you need to take time out to discover yourself first.

Please feel free to submit articles on how you overcame your low self-esteem and if you haven’t overcome it, I am here to help.

Email me thelagosbeautyblogger@gmail.com

Twitter LagosBeautyBlog

Image source Arnel Hasanovic, Caleb Morris


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