#MySelfEsteemandI Signs of Low Self Esteem

low self esteem

I didn’t realise I had low self-esteem for a long time, I knew there were issues I was battling with, but I never saw it as low self-esteem. I just thought I wasn’t good enough, not pretty enough, not sexy enough, not worth the wait….


In this post, I will be talking about the behavioural symptoms of people with low self-esteem. Hopefully, this will help you come to the true knowledge of your insecurities.

  • Poor communication skills

People suffering from low self-esteem have a problem with communicating their feelings. Due to the looming fear of rejection and inadequacy, they will not state their feelings. There is also the constant fear of upsetting others. All of these ensure that they do not confront other people, or ask for their rights if it is being trampled upon.

  • Messy Relationships

Being in a relationship with someone suffering from low self-esteem is a bit different from being with someone that has a good self-worth. When you are in a relationship with someone suffering from low self-esteem, you will have a lot of misunderstandings. This is because people with low self-esteem are usually very defensive, they do not know how to communicate, and they usually hide just how hurt they are about a particular thing and so on.

Persons with low self-esteem are most likely to be promiscuous. This is sad, but true. They feel sex is the only way they can get people to approve of them and maybe even value them. They think sex is what will make the “other person stay”, and when the person doesn’t stay, they look for another partner hoping this will keep them.

Persons with low self-esteem always try to modify themselves; they always change their looks and the way they act depending on who they are trying to please. They change their behaviour to suit whoever it is they’re with.

  • A facade

I remember always putting up a façade; I also tried as much as I could to hide my embarrassment. You see, in our minds, it is better to die in ignorance than to tell people that “we do not understand or we do not know”, so we keep mute.

People with low self-esteem feel that if they admit to a lack of knowledge or show too many emotions, people will think less of them.

  • Eating Disorders

There was a time I literally didn’t eat for over a month. I wanted to be a certain kind of way; I wanted a certain kind of shape. Unfortunately, I needed up looking sick instead of sexy.

Persons with low self-esteem will go the extra lengths to achieve a look or to feel a certain kind of way. The lengths they will go are almost always unhealthy.

  • Being Needy

The saddest thing about having low self-esteem has got to be the neediest. Persons with low self-esteem question themselves. Persons with low self-esteem are always anxious; always unsure of themselves hence they always wonder if they are lovable, if they are wantable if they are needable.  They tend to always hold to too tight to one that person they believe loves them and “is the only one that wants to be with them”.

  • Poor Boundaries

Persons with low self-esteem do not know how to define boundaries. They always tolerate the inappropriate behaviour of others and when they have finally had enough, they explode.

They also do not respect the boundaries of other persons. They are so focused on what they want and what they need that they may not necessarily pay attention to the needs of people around them.

Please feel free to submit articles on how you overcame your low self-esteem and if you haven’t overcome it, I am here to help.

Email me thelagosbeautyblogger@gmail.com

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Image Source Caleb Frith


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