Most of us think we are ready for a relationship, but we are actually not. Knowing when you’re ready for a relationship can be a tricky thing. Especially if there are so many amazing guys flocking around you.
If I to take a survey and ask you if are ready for a relationship, almost all will say yes. But, most of you may not be ready or a relationship just yet. I spent a lot of time being in a relationship that I shouldn’t have been in. As excited as you may be to get into a relationship, you might just not be ready for one.
Don’t get me wrong. I love falling in love, having someone special to talk to and build memories with. But, I realised that almost all the relationships I got into were for the wrong reasons.
Just because you crave a relationship doesn’t mean you’re ready for one.
The following reasons prove that you aren’t ready for a relationship:
You still stalk your ex on social media. You are definitely not ready for a relationship if you still stalk your ex. And if you still think about your ex and the times you had together, you haven’t completely gotten over him.
You’re not willing to make changes to your life. If you aren’t ready to change your routine to accommodate another person, you aren’t ready for a relationship.
You’re trying to become the type of person your crush might like. I call people like this chameleons, they adopt a new character and a new personality with every guy they are with.
You spend are always thinking about being in a relationship. If all you ever think about is falling in love, getting married and having kids. You aren’t ready for a relationship. The possibility that you will cling to any guy that comes near you is alarming.
You have low self-esteem. I do not advise anyone with low self-esteem to get into a relation. People with low self-esteem can get very clingy in a relationship and will do everything their partner asks of them, whether they want to or not.
You always choose the wrong guys. If you always date the wrong guys, I think you need to work on yourself and your priorities before getting into another relationship.
If you need a man to feel happy, you aren’t ready for a relationship.
If you can never admit to being in the wrong, and apologise, you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
If you see relationships as a way to distract you from facing your problems, you should not be in one.
If you date anyone that comes your way, you are a serial dater. You are a serial dater. You shouldn’t even be thinking of a relationship.
If you don’t feel the need to connect with someone emotionally, you aren’t ready for a relationship. You are emotionally unavailable.
You feel like the Holy Spirit. If you want to be in a relationship because you assume you can change and help someone, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. You don’t date someone because of how wonderful they are. You want to date someone so you can rescue them from their troubles! You date a person, not to share a life together with that person. You do this to feel good about yourself while rescuing them from their misery or pain. You are not the Holy Spirit.
You are lonely. Are you falling in love with this person because you love them? Or are you dating this person in the hope that they can fill that hollow emptiness you feel inside?
Pressure from family and friends. If you want to date before of the pressure from family and friends, you shouldn’t be in a relationship at that point. You’re being forced into the relationship by your overly concerned friends or family.
Trust issues. If you have been hurt by a couple of guys and you can’t seem to trust any guy. Do not get into any relationship. Trust is the foundation of a perfect relationship, so if you can’t learn to trust them, you definitely aren’t ready for a serious relationship with them.
Love is not a priority for you because you have to deal with your issues. It’s ok to put other things before a relationship, it’s ok to find yourself before coming into a relationship. All the issues that we develop over the years will never truly go away, they only become easier to deal with, to understand, and recognise. If you haven’t dealt with them, you aren’t ready.
You just want to get married. If a relationship to you is a ticket to marriage and children, you shouldn’t be in one.