#MySelfEsteemandI Self Confidence vs Self Esteem

The terms self-esteem and self-confidence are often used interchangeably when referring to how we feel about ourselves. Although they are very similar, they are two different concepts.

“Esteem” is derived from the Latin aestimare, meaning “to appraise, value, rate, weigh, and estimate.” Self-esteem refers to the value you see yourself having in the world. It is a reflection of how a person views himself.

“Confidence” comes from the Latin fidere, “to trust’’. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities; it is the belief that you can succeed at anything. Psychologists call it domain specific that is, it varies in situations. You can be confident about one area of your life, but totally unconfident about another. I am confident in my ability to write, I am not however confident when it comes to public speaking.

The good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on. Confidence is built by taking action, trying new things and by going outside your comfort zone. Confidence is about facing obstacles knowing that ‘it is okay to fail’. Even though I was always frightened about public speaking, I always gave in my best whenever I was asked to give a speech, I am not perfect, but I am more confident.

When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of esteem. I am constantly working on my self-worth because I want to be a more confident person. Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. I plan to help a lot of people, but I cannot do this successfully without helping myself.

There are a couple of tips I have used to build my confidence. Guess what? They can work for you also;

  • New Look

A new wardrobe does a lot of good for a person’s self confidence. Throw away the old clothes, but new pieces, if you don’t know what to buy, read my article on Style Tips and Rules.

  • Avoid perfectionism.

Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals. If you feel like everything has to be done perfectly, then you’ll never be truly happy with yourself or your circumstances.

  • Identify your talents

Itemize what you are good at, praise yourself for those things. Not only should you feel proud of your talents or your skills, but you should also think about the things that make your personality great.

  • Be patient

Self-confidence needs to be nurtured and grown, a bit at a time.

So, don’t accept failure. Never give up. Never accept failure. Try again until you achieve perfection

  • Be prepared

Read a lot. Ask a lot of questions. One way to build self-confidence is to know a lot about the field you are going into. It is also another way to Stay Stress Free in 2016

  • Praise yourself

Look at a great win or success you’ve experienced and give yourself credit for your part in it.  Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

  • Shut the voice up

Don’t listen to the voice that always insists on ‘I CAN’T’. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Read Giants In My Head to learn how to put a stop to the negative voice

  • It’s okay to be wrong

Confidence sometimes means admitting you’re wrong, it doesn’t make you stupid; it just means you are human.

A confident person isn’t shy to ask for help. No man is an island, you need to tap from other people’ wisdom once in a while.

People with high self-esteem and self-confidence treat themselves with respect and take care of their health, community, and environment. They are able to invest themselves completely in projects and people because they do not fear failure or rejection. They never allow their setbacks damage them. They are open to growth experiences and meaningful relationships, are tolerant of risk, quick to joy and delight, and are accepting and forgiving of themselves and others.

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