#MySelfEsteemandI Overcoming Fear

Overcoming Fear by Creflo Dollar is one of my best books. He defined fear as a cancer that affects people from all works of life. Fear steals, fear kills and fear destroys.

Fear holds millions of people back each day from growing as individuals, achieving high levels of success and becoming the best version of themselves.

Most people cling to their fears, because they believe it is part of who they are. Fear is not normal, neither is it a part of who you are. God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of power, of love and of a sound mind.

Fear is very powerful. But, it is only as powerful as the amount of power you give it.

Everyone as fears and each of us has to face our fears. I am very scared of animals, from crawling to creeping ones, I cannot stand them. No matter what it is that scares you, learn how to acknowledge, confront, and take ownership of your fear so that nothing can hold you back in life.


Before you can overcome fear, you have to realize that fear stops you from being the best person you can be. If this truth isn’t imprinted in your mind, you will live in a shell for the rest of your life.

Recognize what triggers fear

Know what causes you to be fearful, it differs for people. Get curious about what thoughts generate your fear. Yours could be a traumatic event.

Know the signs

When you experience fear, physiological, mental, and emotional reactions occur, which can include: racing heartbeat, difficulty breathing, feeling dizzy, sweating, overwhelming anxiety, panic, feeling like you may faint or die, feeling powerless to your fear, etc.

What are the symptoms of fear? Where do you feel fear? How does it grip you? How do you feel when fear grips you?

Calm Down

When you flooded with fear, it is virtually impossible to reason logically. So, the first thing to do is to calm down. If you start to feel fearful:


Take a deep breath

Then slowly breathe out

Talk about it

Sharing fears takes away a lot of their scariness. Talk to a partner, friend or family member, or you can email me thelagosbeautyblogger@gmail.com

Get control of your imagination

Fear thrives when we imagine the worst. Our imagination enables us to project into the future. However, a side effect of being able to imagine possible positive futures is being able to imagine things going wrong. Uncontrolled imagination is a breeding ground for fear that can spoil otherwise happy lives.

When the feeling of fear overwhelms you, close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed.

Identify false beliefs

Many fears are based in false beliefs or catastrophic thinking. When see a cat, I immediately think of a witch, it’s not my fault, it’s the Nigerian mentality.

Identify these patterns of thinking, and start to question them. Research on how true some of these things are. When you have the proper information about things that you fear, you are in a better position to challenge the fear.

Reading a good book on your specific fear can open new doors on how you can get rid of it. Watching a movie or a documentary can be as enlightening as reading a book. You can find dozens of movies on the fear you’re dealing with.

Face your fear

I am terrified of dogs, unluckily for me there are two dogs in my estate who seem to notice when I come around their close. One barks while the other loves to come close to me. I was going to stop jogging because my fear of dogs but I decided against it. I still get apprehensive when I get to their territory but it is not as bad as before. I’m considering getting a dog to run with!

Each time fears are embraced, it makes them easier to cope with the next time they strike, until in the end they are no longer a problem.



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